Asking Hot Seat Questions

Have you ever played Hot Seat?

The idea of the game is exactly what it sounds like. You have a group of people and one person is in the ‘hot seat’. The other members ask them personal questions, which they then answer. The person in the hot seat changes, generally after some number of questions or a specific amount of time.

It’s one of the most stressful and also most eye-opening of ice breakers. And I usually hate ice breakers. This is maybe the one exception.

Well, this and the blanket/name game. And the one where you pass an apple between your chin and chest around a circle. Make it an orange for extra mess.

I’m in a new group of people (there are 20 of us, to be exact) and I’ve decided I love everyone.  Because I trust people pretty quickly (for better or worse) this means I want to know things about people and to share things about myself.

And my mind kind of naturally goes in the direction of introspection, lists, questions, and all that.

Some favorite hot seat questions:

  • Of this group, with which 3 (or some number) would you prefer to be stuck in an elevator?
  • What is your favorite thing about your personality?
  • What do you think is the worst facet of your personality?
  • What’s your favorite dream?
  • Can you remember the lowest moment of your life? What was it?
  • What is your deepest fear?
  • When was the last time you got in a fight with someone? What was it about?
  • If you could pick an age to die, what would it be?
  • What is the hardest thing you’ve ever done?
  • How many near death experiences have you had?
  • The worst time someone tried to hit on you?
  • What’s the best moment you’ve ever had in the rain?
  • Who is the most famous person you’ve met?
  • What is your greatest hope for your life?
  • How long does it take you to trust people?
  • What’s a bad habit you have?

I’m avoiding PG 13 + questions because I’ve decided that for today this blog is family-oriented.


Last Friday in America: 9/8


Fuck, that’s scary.

Lots of links, though! Continue reading “Last Friday in America: 9/8”

Favorite Fashion and Style Books


I’ve read a lot of style books over my time- they’re good for kicking back and relaxing when you’re trying to put off reading Henry James’ The Golden Bowl (which I’m currently happily but slowly wading through right now). At some point they all seem to blend together (the fashion book, not the Henry James’), but there remain some special ones that stand out- and a lot of other ones that are fun and worth reading, even if they’re not listed here.

Because I had to limit my number of French style books- there are so many that are worthwhile reads but differ from each other only slightly.

I also cut out my favorite minimalism books, because they deal with wardrobes an top of many other lifestyle changes.

And then there are books more based on images- which I’m not going to talk about. But style coffee table books are beautiful too. Continue reading “Favorite Fashion and Style Books”

Answering Unasked Questions: Inside the Wardrobe


So British Vogue’s youtube channel has a series where they visit the wardrobe of various fashion people/tastemakers/personalities- and I love it so much.

These are all people who are pretty passionate about style, and hearing someone talk about something that they’re passionate about is always kind of wonderful- especially when you share that interest. Continue reading “Answering Unasked Questions: Inside the Wardrobe”

Friday Links 6/16


It’s Friday! Which means it’s time for another links post, and somehow June just keeps on slipping by.

What are your plans for this weekend?
I have a visit from my aunt and her new guy (new because I haven’t met him, though they’ve been together for I think over a year). I love Aunt Susan- we’re kind of a lot alike, in how we think.  Do you remember when, growing up, you stopped feeling the disconnect between yourself and adults? And how amazing it was relating to them as actual people (as opposed to caregivers or cousin-argument-arbiters)?
And Sunday is Father’s Day- we’re planning a nice family brunch at The Friendly Toast (which looks delicious- except I can’t for the life of me tell what is vegan and what isn’t). Continue reading “Friday Links 6/16”

Friday Links 5/5


One final down and two to go. Again I apologize for the lack of content but I haven’t had the wherewithal to write anything between studying and collapsing from mental exhaustion- guys, I’ve been taking naps! It’s crazy and unheard of!

But I’m going to unload the links because there are some pretty fun ones and I don’t want to be buried in them.  But for now nothing else.  But regularly scheduled programming should resume after my last final on the 7th.  Really, I’ve been so busy I realized I haven’t even changed my desktop background for the month, so I have none to show you. Maybe next week, because picking the perfect background takes focus. You have to look at it for a month, after all. Continue reading “Friday Links 5/5”

A More Interesting Interview


Sometimes I feel it’s asking about the peculiar little things that give you the best idea of a person.  Or of yourself, if you’re feeling introspective and a little imaginative.

And hear me out- they can also make pretty eye opening and interesting discussion topics.  Just add a ‘why?’ onto the ends of everything.

This is why I have a blog, because I have this kind of nonsense rolling around in my head.  And you? If you were conducting an interview, trying to find fascinating little authenticities in your subject, what would you ask? Continue reading “A More Interesting Interview”